You either fit with another person, or you don’t. Or insist that this man was right for you when clearly he wasn’t. Think about it: if you’re looking for The One, that indicates that there are lots of others who are not the one! If it were easy to find the one true love of your life, I would be out of a job! What You Can Do About Itīut seriously: the worst thing you can do if he acted like he was interested and then disappeared because you two weren’t compatible is give up. Sometimes this happens in life and in dating. Sure, it would be common courtesy, but ya know…not everybody is brave enough to tell a woman he’s not feeling it. Maybe he thinks if you’ve only gone out once or twice, he doesn’t owe you an explanation. Or he might not feel like you’ve been dating long enough to really warrant a legit break up. It takes balls to have that conversation. He might ghost because he doesn’t want to face the music and come clean that you’re not right for him (and vice versa). So if he acted like he was interested and then disappears, it might be because he’s realized that the two of you don’t belong together. And sometimes you’ll meet someone that you really like but they’re not interested in you.
The reality of dating and finding love is that the vast majority of the men you meet won’t be right for you. He may know before you that you don’t fit together. It just means that you want to be very aware of what his goals in terms of dating are, and don’t invest too much energy and emotion in him unless he starts investing it in you. Just because he’s dating casually doesn’t mean that you need to stop seeing him. If you’re dating online, mention it in your profile so you filter out guys who only want a one-night stand. Instead, make it a conversation, where you share a bit about your own past relationships as well.Īnd make it clear from the start that you’re looking for a potential long-term partner. Avoid peppering him with too many questions. This is murky water to wade into, so proceed with this conversation when it feels natural. Gently prod into how many serious relationships he’s had, how long they lasted, and what was the cause of the end of them. If you are looking for a serious relationship, the best thing you can do early on with a new suitor is to get an idea of his dating history. When a man disappears without an explanation, it may be because he doesn’t want to take it any further than a few dates. So that means a lot of people, especially in their late 20s, are not dating with any serious intentions. Studies show that 33% of couples marry past the age of 27, and many don’t get married at all.
They like going out for a nice meal or drink with a lovely lady.Īnd also: people are getting married later. They might not be looking for love, but they do enjoy the company of women…sexual and otherwise. Some men want to go out with as many women as possible. So why did he bother going out with you in the first place? Then he acted like he was interested and moved on his merry little way. He doesn’t really want a real relationship. It’s the worst to find out - after you’ve started to like a guy - that he’s dating because it’s his hobby and he has very little interest in pursuing anything more serious. He may not be into having a committed relationship. You will only waste valuable energy trying to determine what you did wrong (nothing) and why he vanished into thin air (because he sucks).īut for next time, look out for a few of these common scenarios of why he might act like he’s interested but then exit stage left. And you’ll want to get to the bottom of why he disappeared. When a guy ghosts, it’s bruising to your ego, for sure. Now, that doesn’t make it any easier to swallow. He’s just saving you time in figuring that out. Whatever the reason he acted like he was interested and then did a runner, he’s not the guy for you. The reasons vary as much as men’s personalities do, but one thing is certain: he’s doing you a favor. So, why do guys disappear when things are going great? Summary: Why He Acted Like He Was Interested…Then Vanished into Thin Air
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In it, you’ll learn exactly how to transition any casual situation into a loving, committed one. It’s like having a dating crystal ball (without having to wear the weird headscarf)! … or if you’re desperate to know how to identify the ghost before you start being haunted…Ĭheck out this video to learn why he acted like he was interested…and then ghosted … and what you can do about it. If you’re tired of worrying about whether you’ll ever get a reply to your last text …